A 2007 Yahoo survey found that people are twice as likely to consider breaking up between Christmas and Valentines than any other time in the year. Just recently I was contacted by a member from another church who wanted to break up with her long time relationship but didn't feel comfortable going to her own pastor, because she didn't want her pastor to know what was going on in her private life. Now it is perfectly okay to come and speak to me if your marriage is struggling or any other need for counseling. However some situations are so serious that it is perhaps best to seek for more professional counseling. While I practice confidentiality, perhaps you would prefer to speak to someone who doesn't know you and the people that you know. Here is a Directory of Adventist Counselors in North America
I encourage you to look into this service if you are dealing with:
Another tool that is available is an online couple's assessment that is provided through the Prepare Enrich program. In order to gain access you need to go through a licensed facilitator in the program. I am personally certified through this program and can set up an account for you. Contact Me if you want more information.
If you prefer to work on your relationship on your own. I have two workbooks that I can recommend. I do suggest that it is best in serious circumstances to seek a counselor, but some are just looking for a way to simply improve their relationship. In that case:
Workbook for those who are already married
I believe all couples should do a workbook like these. God bless you during this time. While couples around the country are falling apart, may yours get stronger.